I’ve been working hard on this one. Who was it that told me the first three years of your marriage is the hardest? Well she may just be right. Knowing this, it also make sense to stick together and work on it, nurturing the relationship to bring it to a more mature level.
To me, marriage is about love, respect, trust and responsibility. I really do admire the couples who make it past the golden years.
I have been putting a lot of effort into making our marriage work and last. And without my other half cooperating, it probably would not have been easier.
Discovering how the law of attraction works has been a blessing to me. These days, I am much calmer, I notice how I react to incidences and try my best to control my emotions.
I wake up every morning thanking Allah for everything I’ve been blessed with. I pray every day that I’ll be taken closer and closer to my goals until they are finally in my grasp.
For couples who are thinking of tying the knots I would highly recommend that the following issues are discussed and resolved before embarking on this great journey of love:
1. Issue of where to reside - buy your own home, rent, stay with family..
For me, we planned differently but as our plans were dependent on another person, so were the outcome. So I suggest you make a plan with outcomes that you can control so the both of you would be happier.
2. Financial planning - have you saved enough?
Start your marriage with good credit. Planning your daily, monthly and yearly budget is totally a must.. Also make sure you set aside part of your income for savings. Impulse buy is never rewarding. It’s lead us to alot of debts and also an unhealthy lifestyle since we have be forced into a more frugal life now that we’ve realised our mistake.
3. Family planning - when to have your first child.
What preparations will you need to prepare you for parenthood? Read, read, read!
4. Chores delegation
Who does what based on who is good at what and who likes to do what.. this will avoid the ladies ending up doing everything and asking the why me question.
Why am I listing all this? So that my bachelor friends and my younger bros can learn from my mistakes.
But all in all.. it was a mistake well learned. I’m praying that our marriage is stronger than ever as a result of coming out of it.
Yes, for my husband (and son) I am willing to:
- move into a more favourable home,
- further my studies in UK,
-work in this service a tad longer,
- control my emotions,
- become a more loving person,
- cook more meals at home, and
- pursue my passion!!
When you do something for others, apart from feeling great you will often be rewarded with better. And this I am experiencing first hand :). Here’s to a better life!
Tags: Law of Attraction, Personal by Me Rina
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